If so, then WTF!

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Originally posted by mattw:
Apparently there is a bta on me that I had no idea about. Shouldn't I be the first to know if someone BTA's me?

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check your email you registered with, should get one the moment you get bta'd.

Are you sure, because i cannot find this bta?
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Hey man, I found your old Bad trader alerts. Sounds like you have horrible luck with the mail system. Are you in a rural part of MB ?

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Originally posted by mattw:
In a current trade this is part of what was e-mailed to me:

Hey man, I found your old Bad trader alerts. Sounds like you have horrible luck with the mail system. Are you in a rural part of MB ?

As far as I can tell I have solid refs, and quite a few of them by this point. Its really not a big concern to me cause the person I'm trading with is sending first. Which he already did (and I recieved) and I'm ready to send my end. Just seems odd that there is a BTA on me that I know nothing about.

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Originally posted by mattw:
In a current trade this is part of what was e-mailed to me:

Hey man, I found your old Bad trader alerts. Sounds like you have horrible luck with the mail system. Are you in a rural part of MB ?

As far as I can tell I have solid refs, and quite a few of them by this point. Its really not a big concern to me cause the person I'm trading with is sending first. Which he already did (and I recieved) and I'm ready to send my end. Just seems odd that there is a BTA on me that I know nothing about.

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The way I read it, your trade partner seems to be referring to cases in which you were involved (as a victim) rather than as a perpetrator. Perhaps that interpretation makes more sense. You could always ask for clarification/a link, however.

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I PM him and say, email me so we can discuss.

He's like, lol no reason to do email, lets totally do PM! And goes on and on.

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Originally posted by mattw:
In a current trade this is part of what was e-mailed to me:

Hey man, I found your old Bad trader alerts. Sounds like you have horrible luck with the mail system. Are you in a rural part of MB ?

As far as I can tell I have solid refs, and quite a few of them by this point. Its really not a big concern to me cause the person I'm trading with is sending first. Which he already did (and I recieved) and I'm ready to send my end. Just seems odd that there is a BTA on me that I know nothing about.

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What do you think is the highest possible gap in education between two persons in a working couple? (obviously, I know that educaiton is not equal to a person being smart or anything...)

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Originally posted by Omega:
Me again!

What do you think is the highest possible gap in education between two persons in a working couple? (obviously, I know that educaiton is not equal to a person being smart or anything...)

Just me having an even hard time deciding who to speak to on a meeting website because their education is quite lower than mine (and also, judging from their way of writing)

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Well, you have to like the person irregardless. Are they kind? Are they caring and considerate? Are they compassionate when it matters? Are they honest, loyal and trusworthy/ethical?

There are many more things about people than their intelligence.

I just say there would be no "educational gap" that would deter me from giving someone a chance.

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Originally posted by Omega:
Me again!

What do you think is the highest possible gap in education between two persons in a working couple? (obviously, I know that educaiton is not equal to a person being smart or anything...)

Just me having an even hard time deciding who to speak to on a meeting website because their education is quite lower than mine (and also, judging from their way of writing)

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Originally posted by Omega:
Me again!

What do you think is the highest possible gap in education between two persons in a working couple? (obviously, I know that educaiton is not equal to a person being smart or anything...)

Just me having an even hard time deciding who to speak to on a meeting website because their education is quite lower than mine (and also, judging from their way of writing)

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Originally posted by Omega:
Me again!

What do you think is the highest possible gap in education between two persons in a working couple? (obviously, I know that educaiton is not equal to a person being smart or anything...)

Just me having an even hard time deciding who to speak to on a meeting website because their education is quite lower than mine (and also, judging from their way of writing)

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Originally posted by Omega:
Me again!

What do you think is the highest possible gap in education between two persons in a working couple? (obviously, I know that educaiton is not equal to a person being smart or anything...)

Just me having an even hard time deciding who to speak to on a meeting website because their education is quite lower than mine (and also, judging from their way of writing)

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Education isn't necessarily the criteria, but intelligence should be. If dey be writn lyk dis then you probably don't need to message them. If they're writing like an intelligent human being would, then they're probably worth at least talking to and seeing if it goes anywhere.

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Originally posted by flophaus:
So my daughter just told me that the Cookie Monster was replaced by the "Vegetable Monster" on Sesame St. Is this true!?

If so, then WTF!

How can you replace an iconic piece of Americana with some Michelle Obama?!

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Originally posted by Bagbokk:
Education isn't necessarily the criteria, but intelligence should be. If dey be writn lyk dis then you probably don't need to message them. If they're writing like an intelligent human being would, then they're probably worth at least talking to and seeing if it goes anywhere.

I don't need a potential date to have gone to college, but I do need them to show something resembling intelligence.

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This. I've found (and I know this is only strictly true for myself) that generally, when people say they crave someone intelligent, they mean they're attracted to people with intellectual curiosity. The issue isn't how much they know, but how badly they want to learn about new things. I know from personal experience I've found myself attracted to women who some wouldn't consider especially intelligent, but have a powerful intellectual curiosity, and enjoy learning things.
Often intellectual curiosity and "intelligence" go hand in hand, but again I think people (myself at least) tend to/used to conflate the two.

Did this turn in to the Big Bang Theory on love but with out "Penny"!?!?!? LOL

This: Hot Tub Timemachine:

Jacob: You step on the bug and the ****ing internet is never invented.

Lou: Oh then you'll have to talk to girls with your mouth.

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Originally posted by Omega:
Me again!

What do you think is the highest possible gap in education between two persons in a working couple? (obviously, I know that educaiton is not equal to a person being smart or anything...)

Just me having an even hard time deciding who to speak to on a meeting website because their education is quite lower than mine (and also, judging from their way of writing)

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In principle? None. In practice? Depends.

As far as I go, at this point it would be extremely unlikely that I could be in a long-term relationship with somebody who didn't at the very least have a bachelor's degree, simply because it's a useful proxy for other qualities that are desirable (e.g. not being bigoted, not being sexist/a victim of sexism, knowing enough to point out how and why others are wrong, being open-minded, not being angry that I spend massive amounts of time reading and even more working, accepting my academic lifestyle, etc.).

To keep pace with my every-increasing arrogance, however, that wouldn't suffice. In that case, we're talking some sort of second degree.

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Originally posted by Goaswerfraiejen:
In principle? None. In practice? Depends.

As far as I go, at this point it would be extremely unlikely that I could be in a long-term relationship with somebody who didn't at the very least have a bachelor's degree, simply because it's a useful proxy for other qualities that are desirable (e.g. not being bigoted, not being sexist/a victim of sexism, knowing enough to point out how and why others are wrong, being open-minded, not being angry that I spend massive amounts of time reading and even more working, accepting my academic lifestyle, etc.).

To keep pace with my every-increasing arrogance, however, that wouldn't suffice. In that case, we're talking some sort of second degree.

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For example, I'm a graduate student in Classics and ancient philosophy. Not only is intelligence important to me, but so is a really wide education. I do a lot of chillin' in my mind, and many of my 'went to a conference' stories revolve around disagreements over an attempt to reconstruct Epicurus' atomic theory through hostile ancient sources.

I don't need to date a clone of me, nor even a slightly different version of me in the same department. But in order to connect with someone and share with them important parts of my life, I suspect I need a *lot* of education, with at the very least a serious interest in liberal arts.

Thankfully, there are lots of smart girls in grad school

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