I had 2 witnesses and it was all good.

Had no party afterwards.

Was just glad to be married to the woman that I love =)

What's the big deal about all that anyways!?

It's not about anyone else besides you two.

If you want to celebrate, have a pot-luck later.

(That's what I did.)

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Originally posted by BoltBait:
Just run off and get married.

If you want to celebrate, have a pot-luck later.

(That's what I did.)

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Exactly what I'm sayin' =)

I've been doing a bunch of online research, and I'm pretty sure I can get a dress for me for about $150, so that's not a whole lot. But I'm at a loss for the where of everything.

A friend suggested trying a hall somewhere and having it catered, so I have to look that at the costs for that. My soon-to-be-MiL wants to be able to invite everyone in her church that wants to come to the ceremony (and only the ceremony)

Thanks,
Jazaray
Thanks,
Jazaray

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Originally posted by Jazaray:
My soon-to-be-MiL wants to be able to invite everyone in her church that wants to come to the ceremony (and only the ceremony)

Thanks,
Jazaray

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This is a terrible idea. Dont let her. You and Tom are getting married, YOU TWO make the guest list. PERIOD. Your wedding is about YOU, nobody else.

I worked @ a banquet hall for 2 years (trand can verify), ive seen pretty much everything that happens @ weddings, including:
A knife fight between Groomsman and anyone that he could pick a fight with, happened to be the Groom
The Bride puke on herself
Multiple fall down drunks, 2 with ambulance calls
Etc etc...

Dont let randoms ruin your wedding. Also, i would suggest no/limited alcohol. Sure, some people will claim 'we didnt have fun'. Are these really the people you want 'having fun' anyway? Also saves a bunch of $$

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Originally posted by thror:
This is a terrible idea. Dont let her. You and Tom are getting married, YOU TWO make the guest list. PERIOD. Your wedding is about YOU, nobody else.

I worked @ a banquet hall for 2 years (trand can verify), ive seen pretty much everything that happens @ weddings, including:
A knife fight between Groomsman and anyone that he could pick a fight with, happened to be the Groom
The Bride puke on herself
Multiple fall down drunks, 2 with ambulance calls
Etc etc...

Dont let randoms ruin your wedding. Also, i would suggest no/limited alcohol. Sure, some people will claim 'we didnt have fun'. Are these really the people you want 'having fun' anyway? Also saves a bunch of $$

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Well, they wouldn't be coming to the reception, just to see Tom and I get married. Tom grew up with this church and his kids have been going there since they were infants. I also used to help out at the Awana club there, so a lot of them know me too.

Thanks,
Jazaray

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A soft warm embrace,
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Originally posted by Jazaray:
Well, they wouldn't be coming to the reception, just to see Tom and I get married. Tom grew up with this church and his kids have been going there since they were infants. I also used to help out at the Awana club there, so a lot of them know me too.

Thanks,
Jazaray

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Hi Jaz,

I couldn't agree with thror more. It's your wedding, YOU and your hubbie-2-b make the guest list and no one else. If you know them but don't want to invite them, don't! As for my own wedding for instance, I didn't invite half my family as I hardly ever see the bunch of them. I just picked whoever I wanted, I believe I had 80 guests (relatively small I suppose) but it was enough.

Remember, EVERYONE wants a piece of you at your wedding and you're SUPPOSED (read: you decide what you want to do) to see and talk to EVERYONE present, so if you keep it at a fair number of people you can actually enjoy the after-ceremony time, too.
Don't forget to mention if people can bring their kids and/or pets or not! (in some cases this is the same )

Hint: Bring an easy pair of shoes to walk on after the ceremony.

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Originally posted by Jazaray:
OMG, how can it be so expensive to get married? The absolute cheapest buffet reception I have been able to find is $19 per person, and the meal sucks. I've never done this before and I feel so lost.

Thanks,
Jazaray

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Aren't there any MOTL-ers nearby that can do catering? Put up a couple of grills (are you eating outdoors or indoors) and let them handle it. Maybe any acquintances?

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Originally posted by Jazaray:
OMG, how can it be so expensive to get married? The absolute cheapest buffet reception I have been able to find is $19 per person, and the meal sucks. I've never done this before and I feel so lost.

Thanks,
Jazaray

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My first wife and I paid $2000 for a community building in our area. The ceremony and reception were both there, and they made our food. Our family did the photography, so that was free, and we did not have a DJ-- though I did get a really nice stereo as a pre-wedding gift that we used to rock the joint.

Lindsay and I paid something like $800 for the church and reception hall, which were about a mile from each other. We put hundreds into the food, and had a LOT of help with stuff. We DJ'd ourselves again, and it worked fine. We paid a friend $100 to be our photographer, and he did very well, especially without professional lighting equipment. As in, I think they look good, then I remember he didn't have any of that stuff.

In both instances, we had a friend make our cake. Well, technically Lindsay's friend backed out and FiL (plus WalMart, of all places) saved the day, but he had agreed to do it. Then a different WalMart tried to screw us. Then Lindsay ripped the manager a new one, and they

Anyway, none of this includes any decorations you want to have. That stuff can be done very nicely and very cheaply as long as either you or someone you know has a clue about it. That someone would preferably be a person you have physical access to, but I'm sure some of us can help out if that's not available to you. I think I'm pretty good at that sort of thing.

There's always going to be some sort of aggravation involved, and something(s) will not go quite as planned, or at all. As long as you and Tom realize that your perfect wedding day is the one that happens, not the one that's in your head, you two will be fine

I know this post is really disjointed and possibly incoherent. tl;dr-- whatever you want to do absolutely can be done at your budget, as long as you have an open mind about it

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Originally posted by JoshSherman:
I disagree with thror and Aether Storm over inviting those people to the ceremony. If they want to see you two get hitched, why not? As long as it is clear beforehand that the reception is invitation only, and they don't have one.

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I'm not sure how it works in the US, but here in The Netherlands you usually have to name a number of people up front for food. Then they calculate costs, and if they go over it you pay extra. For drinks they just turf the number of drinks they hand out (so the more, the merrier your bill gets).

This means that, IMO, if people come to the wedding NOT specifically to see you guys get married and wish you the best, they're coming from the party and thus enlarge your bill. I wouldn't want any people on my wedding that don't put us first, party second.

Oh, and weddings rarely go as planned, so be prepared for deviations from the program. It's like buying a kitchen. The day they come to install it, there's always something wrong.

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Originally posted by AEther Storm:
I'm not sure how it works in the US, but here in The Netherlands you usually have to name a number of people up front for food. Then they calculate costs, and if they go over it you pay extra. For drinks they just turf the number of drinks they hand out (so the more, the merrier your bill gets).

This means that, IMO, if people come to the wedding NOT specifically to see you guys get married and wish you the best, they're coming from the party and thus enlarge your bill. I wouldn't want any people on my wedding that don't put us first, party second.

Oh, and weddings rarely go as planned, so be prepared for deviations from the program. It's like buying a kitchen. The day they come to install it, there's always something wrong.

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When they come to the wedding but not the reception, there is zero extra incurred cost, so I am not sure how your argument (which is valid) applies to this case.

I had considered renting a couple spots at Goddard Park ($2 per spot, $75 for a gazebo) and having a cookout type of thing, but I'm worried that it might rain, plus there is no alcohol allowed in the park at all.

I also need to figure out where to take the ... whatchamacallit pictures. Like, the ones you take after the wedding of the bride and groom and the rest of the wedding party.

I had a friend that was attempting to help me, although she'd been married twice, she never had a traditional wedding. But.. we kind of had some issues and I'm not entirely sure I still want her to come to the wedding.

I just don't think I can handle this one my own, *sigh*

Thanks,
Jazaray

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And lol @ the people on twitter saying they are moving to Canada.

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ROFL, seriously? Do they not understand the words "single" and "payer"?

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And lol @ the people on twitter saying they are moving to Canada.

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Screw the US where everyone is forced to have their own health care, I'm moving to Canada where everyone gets public health care that they pay for but not directly.....

Thanks,
Jazaray

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There was a nice lassie named Jaz
Many wished to have what she has,
A delicate face,
A soft warm embrace,
And a whole lot of bedroom pizzazz.

WeedIan: Jazaray is like MOTL's Mom.

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Dont let randoms ruin your wedding. Also, i would suggest no/limited alcohol. Sure, some people will claim 'we didnt have fun'. Are these really the people you want 'having fun' anyway? Also saves a bunch of $$

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Been dealing with a bed bug issue for like two weeks now, not only a pain in the neck of taking evrything out of my room and having to sleep on the couch.

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Geez

Been dealing with a bed bug issue for like two weeks now, not only a pain in the neck of taking evrything out of my room and having to sleep on the couch.

I hate being isolated from my room

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Yuck, not fun. I found this. Hope it helps.

~MM

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luckily all my video gaming and other gaming stuff was located on the other side of the bedroom or in the closet.

I still have to check, possibly spray and/put stuff in freezer.

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Originally posted by MagixDK:
i paid rough 12000 to get married.

normal i think.

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